Ignorance is bliss!

          It is funny how people play politics with their friends and dear ones, use them as guinea pigs to fulfill their own selfish motives, make use of cheap tricks and dirty politics to move ahead in their lives. All of this for two minutes of fame, name, wealth and momentary pleasures? Seriously? Aren't these relationships and these people who care for you, love you for what you are and trust you blindly, far more rewarding than fame and recognition?

          We often commit a mistake of taking people at face-value and lay our trust on them. We force ourselves to believe that no matter what, they'll stand by us in difficult times. And once you trust them, its hard to even think that they might have an ulterior motive. They make you believe that come what may they wont go against you. When people start being good to us, we automatically trust them with our secrets, our weaknesses and our strengths. It is not like the person who says "I'll-be-there-for-you!" will always stick around.

          It's just more than what meets the eye, but then we have always been taught that people are good to us if we're good to them, I mean that's the way it works. But sometimes there are a few exceptions around us. for example, you may be very nice to a certain someone around you and that person might pretend to be nice to you, too. But then c'mon they're just pretending to be nice. A few people are of the opinion that at times if you really don't want to be good to certain individuals, you have no other option but being civil to them and rather not being frank, that way you just avoid people talking bad about you behind your back. ( to a certain extent! )

          Then, there are a few individuals who feel they run the world (blah!), that the entire universe is made for them only (blah blah!), as if the entire universe revolves around them (blah blah blah!), basically, they're just pure attention seekers. These people rather don't believe in something like ethics and maintaining relations and friendship. Everything and everyone is just a joke for them, just an instrument to get ahead in their own selfish motives. The attention seekers wont seek attention anymore if we stop paying attention to their whimsical ways. We should keep such people at a distance and not let them affect our lives in any possible manner.

         The best way to avoid such people and problems affecting your life in any possible manner is to ignore them. Some people might wreak havoc in your life and they definitely want you to get upset, angry, irritated, frustrated and much more. Here, we might want to make an exception to one of newton's laws "For every action there's an equal and opposite reaction". if we just ignore what such people do and just don't react they'll eventually get tired of it and it'll make them wonder why you aren't reacting. As they say, "Ignorance is bliss..." :)

        A lot of problems will be solved, if we talk to each other rather talking about each other. Also, we should learn that instead of bad-mouthing people and wasting your energy to devise plans to trouble others, why don't we just use that energy to make our lives better and earn a few brownie points by genuinely being good to people around us (heard of Karma, ever?). Life is really short to adopt a 'Tit for tat' policy and take revenge from others, instead, be good and nice and kind to those around you (in a genuine manner!). And if you can't do this, then atleast don't mess with someone's life! Keep smiling, be good, stay happy! :)

Reality Check!

          Often I see people around me who are 24*7 busy in chatting and text-ing and posting stuff about themselves on the net and elsewhere ...somewhere i feel they're basking in the glory of their self-made illusion of popularity...and are proud of the long list of friends... but the fact is that they are alone and these sites are just a way to escape the reality!

          Whatsapp, Facebook, Viber,Twitter, BBM, Hike, WeChat... etc, Its a never-ending list of Social networking sites and text messaging apps that have literally made the distance between people almost Invisible. We're all online and connected 24*7*365 days! The main purpose of these apps and sites was to bring people close, to keep them updated about things happening in the lives of their closed ones, it was meant to bridge the distance... No matter which part of the world you're in you can still be in-touch.

          But sometimes I wonder the need for these platforms and apps? Do we really 'connect' with people? Do we really 'like' the things happening in their lives or do it just for the sake of showing that you are 'socially active'? Have we really bridged the 'distance'?

          Having millions of friends or followers, or maybe a long list of contact, many groups that you're part of in one of those 'cool' text messaging apps ...really makes you happy? Many people do boast about the fact that they have 'so many' freinds on social networking sites and 'so many' followers and they think that their so popular! But one question has been in my head for a long time now!

          Do you really feel that all of these friends and followers wish the best for you? Do they really care? Are they really bothered about whats happening in your life ? do you really feel loved ? Are we really getting close to our near and dear ones? or is the distance just increasing day-by-day...?

          I don't think millions of friends and followers or a long list of contacts, however influential, may bring you the real happiness and joy to your heart. Even if you're among a group of people, you will still feel alone ...but sometimes, being with just one person or even talking to that person makes your day, makes you feel alive and instills in you the want of living for yet another day!

          Millions of likes on your posts or pictures, the never-ending compliments, etc can never match up to a kind word by someone who's very dear to you. Even if you receive thousands of compliments on your picture or status or any random post, at the end of the day, it is just that ONE person whose opinion matters the most... and you'll be waiting for that person to give his/her opinion about it. *Really*

          Sometimes it happens with most of us, that people who are on your 'friend' list are around you, but you hardly talk, we don't even bother to acknowledge their presence, we avoid each other, this all just seems weird and vague.


          These confession pages are a great way to tell things you don't have the guts to say up-front to someone, but in your life you'll always have someone who is your confession page, to whom you'll run up ASAP and tell every tiny bit of detail of everything that happened to you, every little secret, every story, the reason behind your mood-swings, the reason for feeling low, with whom you can talk anything and everything ....  

            We may feel alone in a crowd or feel lonely even with a single person, all that matters is that one person with whom you can be yourself, you can be YOU! Someone who accepts you as you are, doesn't put you down with their expectations,  just loves you and doesn't expect anything in return. Keep that person always with you and never let go off that person, Because they'll stand by you in good times and in bad times and will hold your hand through this journey called ...Life!

            Its high time we start 'connecting' with people around us first and then think of those who are far away! Keep smiling! Stay happy! 

P.s:- I am not saying these sites and apps are bad, but all that I am trying to say is we have changed its real meaning. Just to get close with people who are far away from us, we have distanced ourselves from those around us, those who are just a call away, few minutes away and just a 'HELLO' away from us! Think about it!

And yes! Feedback/criticism are always welcome. :)